Screwed, blued, and tattooed

by Julie Frayn on June 26, 2012 in  Bric-a-brac

I haven’t been screwed in a while. Not the good way. And I have no idea what blued even means. But tattooed? You betcha!

Photo credit, The Tattoo page, Facebook

Tattoos aren’t just for sailors and bikers anymore. Writers and accountants got ‘em too, oh yes we do.

I didn’t rush into being tattooed. I waded in slowly, finally finding the right image for my first shortly after I turned 40. A lovely eagle in full flight.  Bird in flight. Independent and willful. Free. Me.

I soon added three more, all personal, all celebrating me and my children. Nothing fleeting, only what will always be important and meaningful.

Tattoos, like writing, are the ultimate form of personal expression. You put your heart and soul in ink (even if writing in the digital age is often in virtual ink). You expose pieces of yourself for the world to see.

But the world isn’t ready for everyone’s tattoos.

I have seen firsthand how people look at me and my daughters and judge us for who they think we are because we are tattooed! I am thankful they judge us because I am certain that those are people who I would never want to have in my life!” ~ My friend, Cindy

My first ink (photo credit, Carolyn Frayn)

Tat discrimination is as ridiculous as assuming I’m dumb because I’m blond. I’m blonde and tattooed. So I must be a stupid biker chick or a drug addled slut.

Sorry to disappoint. I’m a writer, an accountant, a mother, a sister and daughter and friend. I think I’m darned good at all of those things. The old don’t judge a book by its cover adage rings truer than true.

I continue to evolve. My book isn’t finished yet. My cover is ever changing.

Don’t judge me.


{ 20 comments… read them below or add one }

mj monaghan June 26, 2012 at 4:06 pm

Please don’t talk to me again, you tattooed … blonde person!

Sorry, couldn’t resist, Julie. hehe
:) 😉 :)

I’m about as trusting with my fellow peeps as a person can be, tattooed or not.


Julie June 26, 2012 at 6:50 pm

Good to know that you trust. I can use that. 😀

Jester Queen June 26, 2012 at 4:23 pm

I love your tattoo!! I will probably never get one (chickenshit that I am) but I love to admire them. I stare openly and then trample over and ask questions. Tats are fascinating to me, and most of them have awesome stories.


Julie June 26, 2012 at 6:50 pm

Thanks Jessie! I’ve got 4 now, and am itching to add a fifth. Bigger, more color, more intricate. But have to figure out what…

Jester Queen June 26, 2012 at 4:24 pm

Wait. I think I was just comment 666. I’m superstitious. I’ll add one more so I don’t end on that note.


Julie June 26, 2012 at 6:52 pm

Yes, you were 666. But it’s okay, biblical archaeologists found the original copy of revelations and discovered that the number of the devil is really 616, not 666. You’re golden.

Trish L June 26, 2012 at 5:09 pm

Your tattoo is wonderful. I totally want one. It’s taken me ages to think of what I would like (a small dragon) but I’ve never decided on where. I haven’t given it too much thought though because I married someone who hates tattoos. Not sure what his problem with them is and I haven’t pushed the issue. I love yours though. Show them proudly!


Julie June 26, 2012 at 6:56 pm

Thanks Trish! I say go for it! Three of mine are ‘public’ and one is not (it’s a phoenix). The second is Japanese characters for ‘bird’ (me), ‘princess’ (my daughter) and ‘bear’ (my son). The last one I got I designed, with a little help from a friend – a princess and bear holding hands. Her skirt and his fur are the feathers from the wings of the eagle in the picture. All about the kids, and freedom.

samijoe June 26, 2012 at 10:25 pm

Fly like a bird… i’ll fly away!

Enjoy the tat! It is beautiful!


Julie June 27, 2012 at 8:19 am

I do love my body art, thanks SamiJoe! And happy anniversary :)

Miranda Gargasz June 27, 2012 at 12:35 am

Nice tat! I have always been fascinated by body art but much too apprehensive to get one. The coolest (in my opinion) tattoo I saw was on a girl at the bookstore: two zombies in love. I simply cannot resist zombies. Oooh, another one was Hello Kitty dressed like a Star Wars stormtrooper. Cool stuff.


Julie June 27, 2012 at 8:19 am

Haha, well I don’t have any like that. Mine all represent me and my kids (birds and princesses and bears, oh my!).

Jen Chatfield June 27, 2012 at 5:55 pm

I too am tattooed! To the point of having to wear long sleeves to work…it’s a good trade-off.

I love to destroy stereotypes. When someone looks at me a certain way because of the tattoos, I go out of my way to be polite and friendly. Leave ’em with something to think about.


Julie June 27, 2012 at 10:27 pm

I have always aimed to crush the stereotype. Even refuse to act like an accountant :). You know, except when I’m accounting.

Your comment makes me think of a Tom Petty song – met a girl out there with a tattoo too…

mj monaghan June 28, 2012 at 8:01 am

Yo, Julie, be sure to check out your mention on my latest blog post:


Julie June 28, 2012 at 12:44 pm

Super cool! Thanks… 😀

tricia June 28, 2012 at 9:40 pm

Julie- Funny! I think “blued” refers to being bruised from either being beaten or being scrappy.

I have a tattoo, too- And I got it when I rode my own harley- now, I drive a mini-van and have a juxtaposed tribal in a spot that no one sees. :)

When my kids first found it, they asked why I had artwork on my bum. It’s not on my bum, btw. It’s what they call any spot on a body between a belly button and a thigh- front or back view. :)

I’m a sappy mom-blogger. I drive a mini-van. And, I have a cool tattoo.


Julie June 29, 2012 at 12:37 am

So you’re a smart biker chick turned cool mom. Sweet and nurturing on the outside, badass to the bone… 😀

ria July 2, 2012 at 4:54 pm

I love the tattoo! I blame you for making me want one! :p


Julie July 2, 2012 at 5:23 pm

I’ll take the blame for that inspiration all day long! If you’ve heard stories of people getting one and then becoming addicted, it’s kind of true. I’ve taken an eight year break, but I do want another. You’ve been warned! 😀

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