The F word

by Julie Frayn on March 6, 2013 in  Bric-a-brac

Not what you’re thinking. Though I’ve often used the F word, you know, the one that got your mouth washed out with soap, when I talk about this new F word. Dare I say it? Oh, what the fuck.


There. It’s out. I’m fifty. Today. All day long…

I’m still hot. It just comes in flashes ~ Anonymous

Still crazy after all these years

I had a goal to complete before I turned fifty. I would write and publish my first novel. CHECK! Done. Before fifty-one I plan on doing it all over again – twice. A question to all the men over fifty – how many of you can do it twice? Huh? Huh???

I’m aiming by the time I’m fifty to stop being an adolescent. ~ Wendy Cope

Clearly, Ms. Cope, I don’t have the same aim.

Wednesday’s child shall fear no woe. ~ oft misquoted nursery rhyme

Kind of circular. Born on a Wednesday. Fifty on a Wednesday.

Some days I feel every one of my 18,263 days.  But more often I feel like I’m still thirty. Sometimes only twenty. I don’t mean in my knowledge (I’m way smarter now), and I certainly don’t mean energy levels or body shape (no further comment required). And not in attitude (my bullshit meter has never been stronger), or confidence (I fake it real good). Okay, I have no idea how I feel like I’m twenty, I just like to think I do. And my memory is still good. I’ve got a mind like a steel . . . whatchamacallit.

The man who views the world at fifty the same as he did at twenty has wasted thirty years of his life. ~ Muhammad Ali

And the woman too, right Mr. Clay?

Life is too short to be serious

The view is pretty good from up here, two-thirds of the way up life’s ladder. Would I like to be twenty again? Hell no. I was naive and stupid then. Not in a tests-and-report-card way – in a life lesson way. I don’t want to go through all that schooling again. And I never want to return to a point in my life prior to when my kids were born. Everything is better because of them.

Aging seems to be the only available way to live a long life. ~ Daniel Francois Esprit Auber

Not everyone is given the opportunity for long life. I may not be. No predicting what is around the next corner. So off I go, enjoying every day that I have. Living life my way for as many days and years as I can.

Old age is no place for sissies. ~ Bette Davis

Fifty – pshaw. Bring it!

Peace out, man













pictures copyright Carolyn Frayn (except that last one. I think my Mommy took that).

{ 16 comments… read them below or add one }

Mitch March 6, 2013 at 9:30 am

Love it Julie! I can relate to everything you say. Once again my friend, Happy Birthday! <3


Julie March 6, 2013 at 10:19 pm

Thanks hon. You’ll relate even more when you get here! kidding, it’s kind of just like yesterday :)

Jo Anne March 6, 2013 at 9:39 am

Terrific, Julie! Enjoy the rest of your life with the intensity you have enjoyed in the first half! Or maybe you could tone it down a bit. For me, age fifty was the liberation! Women seem to need to go through all the biological stuff before they can finally live!


Julie March 6, 2013 at 10:19 pm

Tone it down? How does one do that? 😀

Carolyn March 6, 2013 at 12:35 pm

What a joy to read this.

Perfectly not perfect. Beautiful in every way. Totally passionately talented. Kind. Caring. Loving… and crazy in all the right ways.

Happy 50th Birthday darling Systir… my sister, my friend… I love you so much.

<3 <3 <3
Peace out.


Julie March 6, 2013 at 10:20 pm

well gee, thanks *blush* Love you too, big systir. ♥

Linda Hamilton March 6, 2013 at 3:13 pm

Well said Julie. And welcome to the club!


Julie March 6, 2013 at 10:21 pm

There’s a lot of damn fine people in this club. I think I might like it here. Thanks, Linda!

J Timothy Quirk March 6, 2013 at 5:55 pm

Stay #awesome Julie! It’s so great reading your blog! I’m going to read your book this month!


Julie March 6, 2013 at 10:21 pm

Thanks, Joe. I’m trying! and woot! Hope you enjoy the book. Just got a five star review that left me speechless.

Sandee Abern March 7, 2013 at 12:46 pm

Happy Birthday!!!! The best is yet to come! You know how you wouldn’t want to relive any part of your life before your kids….I totally agree. But…wait until you have grandchildren…the epitamy of deliciousness!!!!

Have a great Birthday…enjoy!


Julie March 8, 2013 at 6:16 am

Thanks Sandee. Not ready for grandkids yet, but I’m sure when the time comes, I’ll be just as nuts for them as for my babies 😀

Ey Wade March 8, 2013 at 7:07 am

Happy belated birthday. Fifty is just a number. When I made it I was so excited. How often do you get to be half of a hundred…the perfect number? At 40, I made it over the hill and was on a roll, life has only gotten better.


Julie March 8, 2013 at 7:47 am

Thanks Ey. I thought it would bother me, but it hasn’t. Look the same, feel the same, am the same as I was on Tuesday. 😀 And I agree about life after 40. Better and better.

Sean P. Farley March 16, 2013 at 9:10 am

Fifty. Pshaw! That’s nothing. Well, not NOTHING, but you know what I mean. You’ve accomplished great things, Julie. It’s actually a great F-word to throw around, now that I think about it. Of course, being a potty mouth, I have no problem throwing the other one around, either. :) Happy Fiftieth!


Julie March 26, 2013 at 7:19 am

See, that’s why we get along – potty mouths! Thanks for the wishes. Apologies that I’m so late in thanking you :)

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